I was always the child who was caught staying up late at night, buried beneath a blanket reading by flashlight. I was so privileged to have a mom who was also a bibliophile, and always encouraged my love of reading. She never censored what I could read as a child, and because of that, I devoured all the books I could get my hands on at bookstores, libraries, garage sales, and second-hand stores. Unsurprisingly, I grew up to be a bookseller in an earlier life for nearly 10 years before I made the decision to go back to school. Even as an adult, I will likely always consider myself to be a perpetual student, and I hope to always, always be learning. We all have so much to teach one another.
So, for that reason, here is a space for me to show the books that I have most recently been reading, as well as some of my favorite to recommend. This is certainly is not an exhaustive list, but I have included all of the books that I felt have helped me learn and evolve. I try to read at least one book each month that challenges my perspectives. The majority of these books come from non-fiction categories such as the social justice, psychology, self-development, or memoirs, but occasionally I'll also include a poignant and thought-provoking novel.
(Ray Bradbury)
(F. Scott Fitzgerald)
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When Wayne and Kelly Maines adopted identical twin boys, they thought their lives were complete. But by the time Jonas and Wyatt were toddlers, confusion over Wyatt’s insistence that he was female began to tear the family apart. In the years that followed, the Maineses came to question their long-held views on gender and identity, to accept Wyatt’s transition to Nicole, and to undergo a wrenching transformation of their own, the effects of which would reverberate through their entire community.
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How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning & Organizing (KC Davis)
If you’re struggling to stay on top of your to-do list, you probably have a good reason: anxiety, fatigue, depression, ADHD, or lack of support. For therapist KC Davis, the birth of her second child triggered a stress-mess cycle. The more behind she felt, the less motivated she was to start. She didn’t fold a single piece of laundry for seven months. One life-changing realization restored her sanity—and the functionality of her home: You don’t work for your home; your home works for you.
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Nobody's Girl: A Memoir of Surviving Abuse & Fighting for Justice (Virginia Roberts Giuffre)
In this brave and remarkable memoir, Virginia Roberts Giuffre shares her harrowing story in her own words, detailing the years of abuse she endured at the hands of Jefferey Epstein and her subsequent fight for justice.
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That's a Great Question, I'd Love to Tell You (Elyse Myers)
Bold, relatable and laugh-out-loud funny. The internet’s BFF delivers a collection of personal stories, hilarious anecdotes and intimate reflections from her life as a viral sensation.
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You With the Sad Eyes: A Memoir (Christina Applegate)
The iconic actress reflects on her monumental on-screen and off-screen career, from her sitcom days to her movie roles to her hilarious podcast, and the important lessons she’s learned over the years.
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In We Can Do Better Than This, 35 voices - actors, musicians, writers, artists and activists - answer this vital question, at a time when the queer community continues to suffer discrimination and extreme violence. Through deeply moving stories and provocative new arguments on safety and visibility, dating and gender, care and community, they present a powerful manifesto for how - together - we can change lives everywhere.
(Oscar Wilde)
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Because We Are Bad: OCD & a Girl Lost in Thought (Lily Bailey)
Charming and raw, harrowing and redemptive, Because We Are Bad is an illuminating and uplifting look into the mind and soul of an extraordinary young woman, and a startling portrait of OCD that allows us to see and understand this condition as never before.
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Your brain can be frustrating. When it goes off and does its own thing (like it always does), turn to Dr. Faith to get it back where it belongs. With immense patience and plenty of humor, this is perfect for anyone who struggles with any number of mental blocks.
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Unprotected: A Memoir (Billy Porter)
It’s easy to be yourself when who and what you are is in vogue. But growing up Black and gay in America has never been easy. Before Billy Porter was slaying red carpets and giving an iconic Emmy–winning performance in the celebrated TV show Pose; before he was the groundbreaking Tony and Grammy Award–winning star of Broadway’s Kinky Boots; and before he was an acclaimed recording artist, actor, playwright, director, and all-around legend, Porter was a young boy in Pittsburgh who was seen as different, who didn’t fit in. At five years old, Porter was sent to therapy to “fix” his effeminacy. He was endlessly bullied at school, sexually abused by his stepfather, and criticized at his church. Porter came of age in a world where simply being himself was a constant struggle.
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Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot (Mikki Kendall)
Bringing overlooked feminist issues to the forefront, Mikki Kendall’s eye-opening essays challenge a feminism that too often abandons the women who need it most.
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In this fascinating narrative, therapist Catherine Gildiner’s presents five of what she calls her most heroic and memorable patients. Among them: a successful, first generation Chinese immigrant musician suffering sexual dysfunction; a young woman whose father abandoned her at age nine with her younger siblings in an isolated cottage in the depth of winter; and a glamorous workaholic whose narcissistic, negligent mother greeted her each morning of her childhood with "Good morning, Monster."
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Briefly, Perfectly Human: Making an Authentic Life by Getting Real About the End (Alua Arthur)
A deeply transformative memoir that reframes how we think about death and how it can help us lead better, more fulfilling and authentic lives, from America’s most visible death doula.
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Educated: A Memoir (Tara Westover)
At times harrowing but always hopeful, this memoir follows a young woman from an off-the-grid upbringing who embarks on a resilient journey of self-discovery.
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Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family & Culture in Crisis (J.D. Vance)
Part memoir, part cultural commentary, Hillbilly Elegy pulls from Vance's rural upbringing and examines the white working class in Appalachia, along with their gradual descent into discontent.
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The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times (Michelle Obama)
Former First Lady Michelle Obama shares practical wisdom and powerful strategies for staying hopeful and balanced in today's highly uncertain world. Drawing from her experiences as a mother, daughter, spouse, friend and First Lady, she shares the habits and principles she has developed to successfully adapt to change and overcome various obstacles — the earned wisdom that helps her continue to "become."
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The Message (Ta-Nehisi Coates)
National Book Award winner Ta-Nehisi Coates delivers a gripping account of some of our world's hardest truths, from Senegal to the American South to Palestine.
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Addressing the ongoing teen mental illness crisis, this is an actionable approach to making a difference. It's practical and insightful, engaging and necessary.
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The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture (Dr. Gabor Maté)
In this revolutionary book, renowned physician Gabor Maté eloquently dissects how in Western countries that pride themselves on their healthcare systems, chronic illness and general ill health are on the rise. Nearly 70 percent of Americans are on at least one prescription drug; more than half take two. In Canada, every fifth person has high blood pressure. In Europe, hypertension is diagnosed in more than 30 percent of the population. And everywhere, adolescent mental illness is on the rise. So what is really “normal” when it comes to health?
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(Charles William Eliot)
Asking me to pick my favorite book is like asking me to pick my favorite day of the year; it all depends on when you ask me, what my mood is, & which favorite I think of first when the question comes up.
So these are not just books that I love, but the ones that are beloved - the ones that have worn spines & edges, have slips of paper tucked between their pages, notes written in the margins, & likely have some damage from coffee, tears, or rain. These are the beloveds that I have picked up & read countless times, only to feel them just as deeply as if it were the first time, or the ones I have gifted again & again over the years. These books have my highest recommendations (in no particular order).
(François Mauriac)
(Louisa May Alcott)
(Jim Rohn)
(George R.R. Martin)